Hello &

Hello &

Wentworth Earl Miller III

Wentworth Earl Miller III

V.I.P.

V.I.P.

Thursday, May 19, 2016

Mailbag (5.1) Q & A.



Mailbag (5.1)

WENTWORTH MILLER·THURSDAY, MAY 19, 2016

Sorry for the delay, guys.

I set about answering questions back in March, my intention to do several rounds... Then my meme post happened. Then self-care April happened. Then the PB reboot happened. Now I’m heading to Morocco to continue work on the same. So this will be it. Thanks for understanding. And much love. - W.M.

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Q: Any plans to write a book/novel? [This one came up several times.]

A: I'd have to wrap my head around the idea of me as a novelist first. Which may take awhile. It took me years to wrap my head around the idea of me as a screenwriter. So I guess the only thing standing in my way... is me. Not for the first time.

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Q: If you could only bring one book to a desert island, which book would it be? [This also came up several times.]

A: One of my old photo albums (remember photo albums?), filled with pictures of family and friends.

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Q: Good afternoon Mr. Miller ! I am very interested in your way of dealing with overloving fans as a famous person suffering from mental illness. It can be frustrating for fans to love a celebrity for years and only share a few seconds of their life. So fans tend to selfishly take from you what they want (a photo, a hug, conversation) and we either don’t care about your feelings or hope that you will use our love as support for yourself... "It’s the job." you might think. But are there things that you genuinely enjoy from fans, are there things we can do ?

A: Hm. Tempting. Yes, I could probably come up with a list of "dos and don'ts" for fans to follow. But I don't know how truly helpful that would be. Might be both too much and not enough.
I've been "famous" for a decade plus, met thousands of fans, and each interaction has varied according to time, place, where I happened to be mentally/emotionally/spiritually...
The other key element, of course, is the fans themselves. I find it interesting that when people refer to “the fans" it’s as if they're a singular entity, consistent in head, heart, and intentions. In reality fans are like snowflakes. No two are the same.

Over the years I’ve found most to be a lovely combination of energy, manners, and timing, knowing intuitively when to approach and what to say, aware that I, too, have thoughts, feelings, and errands to run. But now and then I'll come across a fan who is... cut from a different cloth.
The idea that I could conceivably regulate these interactions is pure fantasy. So I'll leave it be. But thank you for asking. It speaks to a desire to be (more) aware and (more) sensitive. And that's appreciated.

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Q: You said once you "vibe" or "vibe" less with your fans...my question,hoping that it doesn't harm in any way,is : -what do you consider a trigger for #vibing or #lessvibing ?

A: I think I was referring to what people said on this page. Simply put, I don't always agree with the opinions I see posted here. Which is fine. As long as they're presented respectfully.

This also feels like an opportunity to speak to why I don't "like" or reply to comments. Simply put, I don't want anyone worrying about whether or not I'm going to "like" or respond to what they have to say. What I "like" isn't important. What's important is that people feel free to speak their truth(s). Respectfully.

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Q: my 7 year old daughter wants to know would you ever marry Elsa since your both frozen people lol

A: I'm not sure Captain Cold is the marrying kind. Then again, "King Cold" has a nice ring to it. Perhaps he could be persuaded. ;)

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Q: What do you value most in a friendship?

A: An open mind and heart. And an easy laugh.

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Q: If there was one human emotion you could absolutely live without which one would it be? And why

A: Guilt. Shame. Anger. Fear. Sadness. Joy. These are the six core human emotions (I've been told). All of which, in their healthiest forms, are of service to us. To stop experiencing one would be to stop being human. So my answer is "none." I choose to experience them all. I want to ride all the rides.

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Q: Do you think some of the language we use to talk about homosexuality is problematic? I sometimes feel as though certain words or phrases... serve to perpetuate negative ideas or stereotypes and perhaps even give weight to the shame that is often associated with being gay. For example, why do we still talk about "coming out?" To me, this language reinforces the view that being gay is something that is shameful and thus merits keeping it hidden. I hope you've understood me; I am terrified of offending you and others. I would really like to hear an answer because I am always afraid of being offensive and so, in many occasions, have chosen to remain silent rather than to be a part of conversations.

A: In my opinion, when it comes to discussions about sex, sexuality, gender, language, labels, etc., the only way to do it "wrong" is to not do it at all. I think your question, and the way it’s articulated, is an excellent model of how to enter into a complex conversation with a lot of moving parts. Being honest about your fears, admitting you aren't sure what to say, inviting others to give feedback... All of this strikes me as a sensitive, respectful approach. My hope is that you continue to practice speaking your piece. I will too.

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Q: Hi Went , my question is about your college years... can you give me helpful tips for studying affectively?

A: Fall in love with what you’re studying. If you can. My grades were always higher in subjects I connected with on a personal level. During my last years of college, no matter what course I was taking, I made sure my papers and essays tied in themes that were meaningful and inspiring to me (identity, sexuality, social conditioning, etc.). And my writing improved dramatically. So did my grades.

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Q: You wrote early on about needing positive self-talk - about trying to fill a vault with words of life to balance out the negative that had built up your whole life. I imagine so many of us know how that feels... I suppose my question for you... is does that second vault feel a little more full? I hope that you can FEEL the positivity you are putting out in the world coming back to you two-fold, because having just recently started watching your shows, then found you here only a week or so ago, I can say you've already affected my life and I imagine will continue to do so in ways I'm unaware of yet. I hope those of us you have an impact on can have some small impact on you too - even if it's just by saying THANK YOU, with whatever sincerity we are able to muster through the glow of an electronic screen.

A: The answer is "yes." I do feel the second vault is more full. I do feel the positivity. And I am reminded, constantly, that I have the potential to impact others. Just as they have the potential to impact me. In ways seen and unseen.

On that note, I’ll share with you a thought that’s gotten me through some difficult days...

The Universe, I like to believe, can and does work in the following way... I say "hello" to a stranger on the street... because of that small kindness, they decide not to go home and do something rash... the next day they meet someone... have a child together... and that child grows up to discover the cure for cancer...

I'll never know I was a link in that chain. But I can choose to live my life as though I might be. As if each and every one of us is essential to the other. That thought brings me joy. This page brings me joy. It’s my way of saying "hello."








Thank you darling Went.  Sending you tons of love always! 

xxxx 

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